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I was 8 years old the first time I made the walk from the bus stop to my house in tears because my “best friend” and the crew that picked her side in our latest argument were making fun of me. It was less than 2 weeks later when it was my turn to be on the “winning side” as she made the same walk of shame.
I was 15 when my high school friend returned from studying abroad for the summer and didn’t call me as soon as she was unpacked. She didn’t call for over a week, as a matter of fact.
I was 20 when a college friend hooked up with a guy I met earlier in the night and then proceeded to tell me she did it knowing I’d forgive her because that’s just the kind of person I was…
Several weeks ago I was approached by Stephanie over at The HerStories Project and asked to contribute an essay to her site. Stephanie and Jessica created The HerStories Project to help women find support, reclaim a sense of self and reinvent themselves during the transitional period of new motherhood. What has transpired is a beautiful collection of the insightful, honest, hilarious and emotional stories of friendship between women and mothers. I’m honored to have been asked to be a part of this important project and I hope you each take a moment to see all they have accomplished at The HerStories Project.
I love this. I think making “big girl” friends is really hard. By the time we are all grown, we’ve seen first hand how hard women can be on one another. My problem is that I don’t have time for anything superficial, so I make friends easily, but when I don’t see it having what it takes to stand the test of time I just sort of move on. That sounds so terrible to write it out. I promise I’m not a bitch! I have friends! LOL!
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I don’t think you’re a bitch at all Lana! I completely agree. Sometimes I wonder if I miss out on a special relationship when I meet someone new but just don’t feel like I have the time to develop it further. I also feel like a snotty jerk. But the truth is life is so busy and so full that I feel like the time I DO have, I want to spend with the great friends I already have and don’t get to see all that often. These adult friendships are so special to me and I really want to give them my time. And I also agree with your point about women being hard on one another. It’s hard to find someone with whome you feel safe and you trust.
Thanks for reading and commenting;)
Vicky